21 May

You decide if you want to change

You decide if you want to change

The time is over that you have to get stuck in the negative spiral of thoughts and behaviour patterns.

Are you aware of what keeps you in this loop? 

How powerful is it when you can start to give yourself feedback and advice that really works.

Maybe, you recognize, like I also do, that people around you start to give you advice, from a good heart. But it doesn’t stick.

One ear in and the other ear out. Or worse, it creates irritation.

And sometimes I also catch myself giving advice to someone like it’s out of my mouth before I know it.  That is probably also what you recognize. There is nothing more human than behaviour.

Let me make this very clear, you are the one that decides when and how you change.

The responsibility is with you. It’s not because someone wants you to, or your coach says it will be done in a minute. Something else is if you are open to change. If you are not open to change, then this series of blogs will not be for you, because guaranteed you will be inspired.

In the training for NLP life coaches one of the things I like to say is, you cannot go faster than the horse. Meaning, maybe you can see that someone needs a change, and the other person needs to see and feel that. To ask questions to make someone aware of the behaviour is a thing you can do as a coach. And if the questions don’t bring any results, you leave it there. It’s not your responsibility that someone makes a change or needs to change.

Creating awareness is like building a bridge between the conscious mind and the unconscious mind.

When you set a goal, and you are really determined to reach this goal, it can be that whatever you do, you are not reaching what you have envisioned for yourself.

Did you ever ask yourself, if you set a goal, what it will bring you that is even more important than the goal itself? Or how this goal is inspiring to you?

If you can connect to the values that the outcome will bring you, more likely you will achieve the goal or your desire and the bridging between your minds have begun. It’s a first step.

And, its fun to have a meaningful conversation with yourself.

The questions will bring you towards the understanding if you want to change or not.

And, always remember, if its not broken, we are not going to fix it.

So to change or not to change, that is the question.

NLP makes change easier, more simple yet on a deep level, fun and connected from the heart.


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