16 Nov

Green Friday, Green Love

I recently facilitated a client’s family constellation where I asked her to donate the payment she was to give me to a project or person close to her heart She was surprised ‘Huh?’ I said yes, please donate the full amount with love to a project or person that you love. At the beginning of

01 Nov

You can’t shame yourself into change

I recently started seeing a coach again. As a trainer and coach working with people in different ways, I feel it’s a must to commit myself to lifelong learning. A lot of times, I choose a coach out of shame. Shame I didn’t have enough clients or I wasn’t good enough. Shame I was still

01 Mar

4 steps to improve your rapport with people – an essential ingredient in NLP coaching

By Brenda
In coaching, Inspiration, tools and resources
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I want to make it easier for you to use NLP jargon in your daily life The first concept is rapport, which sits at the heart of NLP Rapport is the French word for making contact. It goes deeper than only contact. It’s more than just saying hello and having a conversation. It can be a

15 Dec

6 steps to exploring your mind and how it affects your behaviour

By Brenda
In coaching, Inspiration, tools and resources
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Human behaviour is intriguing and sometimes complex to understand. Bjork, one of my favourite artists in the world has a beautiful song called Human Behaviour. She sings: If you ever get close to a human and human behaviour Be ready, be ready to get confused and me and my hereafter Getting more understanding and clarity

14 Dec

How to choose the right coach or training for you

As trainers, we love coaching and bringing you further on your path. It’s important to us that you make the right choice. Looking to be trained as a coach? here are 8 tips to consider: 1. Get to know the trainer personally Find out more about the trainer. See if there’s content available on social

06 Dec

What is systemic work?

By Brenda
In coaching, tools and resources, Training
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Systemic work is a way of seeing. To see with your heart and soul what your eyes cannot perceive. A constellation is about looking at and seeing what’s going on in a system. You’re linked to your (biological) family system. They reveal invisible patterns. It may be a question from within about yourself, your family

02 Dec

6 steps to create awareness in behavioural patterns

Do you get irritated when experience certain behaviours and patterns in someone? From a coaching perspective, we have the responsibility to create awareness in our coachee. Before someone can break through a pattern, awareness around what is happening is important. Most of our behaviour happens unconsciously. We act and do, often not aware of what

11 Nov

Zooming in and out in coaching

By Brenda
In Training, coaching, tools and resources
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At the beginning of last year, my trainer and mentor Peter Dalmeijer asked me if I would like to write a review for his book, 10 steps in systemic coaching, that he wrote together with his partner Yvonne Stams. My heart jumped with joy! At first I didn’t believe he asked me to write a

27 Jul

5 ways to tap into your coach consciousness

By Brenda
In Training, coaching, tools and resources
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It’s important as a coach or coach to be to have the right attitude With this, you provide a safe haven for the person you are conversing with Here are 5 ways to tap into your coach consciousness before a session:

18 Jun

The P in NLP – Programming

By Brenda
In coaching, Inspiration, tools and resources, Training
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In NLP there is a beautiful way to question your thinking and get more insight into what is happening in you It’s the Think-Feel-Do model. If there’s a thought, its followed by a feeling. And from there, behaviour. A lot of times you’re only aware of a thought or feeling without knowing the root cause.